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Tips on how to attract the elusive women of Buenos Aires

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By | June 20, 2009

This content is olddddd. For a more modern take on attracting the elusive women of Buenos Aires, head to The Dating Scene: Guys and Girls of Argentine Part II

Alright fellas! You made it to Buenos Aires! Let me guess. After a delicious and generous portion of carne, you’ll be heading to the nightclubs to pursue the one thing that truly brought you to this region: the ladies!

“It should be easy,” you boast to your buddies, “they love gringos around these parts. Should be a piece of cake.” Right? Wrong! While there are many fantastic reasons to frequent Buenos Aires, an easy pull is not one of them.

I remember my first few days in the country. The first thing I noticed was that the women seemed to give more obvious signs that they are interested. Lots of eye contact, smiling, hair adjusting. They were DYING for attention!

Not only that, but in my first few days I’d become acquainted with some very lovely and seemingly interested ladies. I’d gotten 5 phone numbers from 5 girls. Then, in one sitting, I sat down and texted all 5. To my pleasure, all five replied! I thought to myself, “Baaah! This is going to be EASY!”

A week later, guess how many of those girls I’d actually met up with? Just one out of five. Not good. And I’ll tell you what. All those girls seemed interested when I’d gotten their numbers. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have asked! I confessed my frustrations to my friend, who’s been in the country for more than 20 years. “They loved me!” I moaned. “I know they loved me! What happened?” I pleaded.

“Welcome to Argentina!” he said with a smile. This would not be the last time I’d heard those words.

I wanted to get to the bottom of this, so throughout the following weeks I went out there and did what I do best. I had many interactions with many beautiful Argentinean girls. After executing this research firsthand, I can postulate as to why they may be some of the hardest girls to hook up with.

My guess: They’re women. And women, are flakes! One minute they want this, the next they want the opposite. End of article!

Oh alright. I jest. But ladies, there’s a bit of truth in every joke, hmm?

My real guess: Argentine men are SO aggressive, that it’s actually made the women ultra passive because all they’ve ever had do to be approached repeatedly is leave the house. The result: They LOVE to flirt, and they’re good at it. They’ve certainly had enough experience! But when it comes to getting together for that promised date, it’s like chasing a dream. As Donnie Brasco would say, “forgetaboutit!”

So, I thought to myself: Maybe it would be useful to write up a little article with my top 5 tips to counter this flakiness of epic proportion.

Tip #1: Avoid the classic/boring pickup lines
Here are a few examples of typically lame lines:

Example 1: “Hey. I’m a banker. Here’s my card, give me a call sometime. (Wink)”
Trying to impress her with your money/status/car? Not working buddy, no way.

Example 2: “Wow, you’re so pretty. Are you a model?”
Uggggh. Do I have to explain why that’s bad?

Example 3: “Hi you’re cute. Can I get your number?”
This isn’t as bad, but it isn’t good. Going for the number straight away implies that all she has to do in order to get you interested is be good looking. Women really want to be appreciated for something other than their looks. They know they’re hot. Try talking to them for a few minutes and find a GOOD reason to want to meet them again.

Tip #2: Avoid nightclubs
First of all: When it comes to picking up local girls in nightclubs and bars, you’ll be at a major disadvantage. It’s loud, it’s harder to talk and you’ll struggle unless you’re fortunate enough to be fluent in Spanish. In fact, being a Spanish speaker may get you the same treatment the locals get on their approach: the cold shoulder!

But fear not! The best place to meet some gorgeous ladies is: anywhere else. That’s right, ANYwhere outside of the nightclub. In day-to-day situations, it is much easier to play the tourist card. “Perdón ¿Dónde está una casa de cambio?” you might ask, or “una buena restaurante” or even “una lavandería.” Hey, even gringos have to do laundry!

And after this intro, just continue on with the conversation. You could act a bit confused and then sputter out “¿Hablas ingles?” And if they do speak English, be sure to compliment her on it. “Hablas muy bien ingles. ¿Porqué?” Of course, if they don’t speak a word you can try, “¿Porqué no hablas ingles? ¡Está muy popular!” But after that, you’re on your own!

Some hot spots to meet locals: restaurants, the markets (San Telmo on a Sunday), tango class, yoga class, just about anywhere you can imagine. Just don’t be afraid to make the first move. They certainly aren’t going to.

Tip #3: In Buenos Aires, making plans straight away is your best bet
Why get her number to try and see her later when you can take her out RIGHT there? Instant dates are a great way to avoid the struggle to get a girl to return your calls. Only if it’s absolutely impossible to hang out right then, I’ll make plans to meet up another time. But always be sure to, make concrete plans!

My favorite play: I ask girls if they’re trying to improve their English and once they say they are trying to do just that (so far, every one has said so), I suggest an exchange program. A coffee in a cool spot then we chat half an hour in Spanish, followed by half an hour of English. Everybody goes home a winner (or maybe, you’ll even go home winners together!).

Tip #4. Lie! (err…omit information)
I learned an excellent lesson from this one girl I had been seeing. 32, local, works out, lived in the US for years and bilingual. We went out and had an amazing 7 hour date. I mean, 7 hours. You’d think, for SURE there would be a second date, right?

Wrong! I didn’t hear from her for 2 weeks! I sent her one of my famous anti-flake texts, which eventually got a reply and another date.

On date 2, I found out the reason she avoided me. Are you ready for it? She didn’t want to get emotionally attached to someone who was leaving the country. AARRgghHH!

In the end, she got attached, but the lesson here is this: just as some girls like the idea of hooking up with a traveling foreigner (hey, no strings!), some girls will be put off of the idea. I recommend just feeling out the type of girl you’re dealing with before you reveal you migratory status.

Is she a party girl? Or does she seem a bit more reserved? If it’s the latter, you may opt for my friend’s advice. “Never tell ’em you don’t live here. You just moved here. YOU JUST MOVED HERE! That’s your story. Stick to it!” Even though it may not make sense, women often don’t want to admit to themselves (or even to their friends) that they are having free, no strings sex.

Now, I’m not saying you should lie to get girls into bed, but maybe stretch the truth. A little. Tell her you’re thinking about moving here (hey, we can all THINK about moving here… right? right!). This should go down well for either type of girl (party animal, and non party animal) because they’ll read into it what they want to read into it. See? (Yes, I am pure evil. Thank you very much).

Tip #5: Follow up right away!
If you DO just get their number (and you don’t make plans) make sure to follow up right away! This is a good tip for guys around the world, but especially for the fast pace of Buenos Aires. You may think your 5 minute chat at the bus stop was one to remember, but if you wait a couple of days FORGETaboutit! You’re history, buddy. So don’t be a wuss. Call her that night (or the next day at the latest)!

Often, I’ll text women 2 minutes after I’ve walked away from them with something playful, such as “hey, miss me yet?” It keeps the conversation going while it’s still fresh in her mind, so there’s never an awkward moment where she has to decide whether or not she should pick up the phone when you call!

Feel free to drop me a line on my website, Infinite Man Summit

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